You may be asking yourself, Why should I join the Missouri Counseling

Association. Well, here are the top 5 reasons to Join us and start making a

difference today.

1. Stay informed and educated:

As a professional, you need to keep informed as to what is happening in all

areas of your chosen field.

Educationally, you need to keep current with all developments in the scope

of your work.  Learning new models and methods doesn't stop after college

or graduate school.

Politically, you need to know what laws affect you and your profession. 

You need to know what bills are being considered that have an impact on

your work, and what you can do to influence legislation to promote your

profession.

2. Network with other/local professionals:

The Missouri Counseling Association provides many opportunities for

networking and interaction with your fellow Missouri

professionals. Whether it's through working together on a committee,

attending conferences, attending a group consultation, or simply meeting

socially.

3. Get members-only information:

Health coverage, grants and scholarships, legal support, member search,

speaker registry, college and career search, and private practice

registration.

4.  Professional Development - CEUs and licensure information:

The Missouri Counseling Association offers their membership quality

continuing educational opportunities.  Your membership not only provides

you with significant discounts on the conferences and workshops offered,

but more importantly, makes those conferences and workshops possible,

so when you need continuing education, there are quality workshops for

you to choose from in person or virtually.

Lunch and learn workshops

Shorter one-day workshops

 Annual two day Conference

5. Advocacy:

The Missouri Counseling Association monitors the Missouri legislation that

can affect the counseling profession.  The members of the Missouri

Counseling Association can share in the pride that they are, through their

membership, supporting a high level of professionalism and competence in

Missouri counseling. Together with you, the Missouri Counseling Association

is committed to making lives better through professional learning, political

advocacy, leadership opportunities, and networking. 

Become a Member of Our Community and Let’s Work Together

First responder grief is a complex, often unspoken struggle those who dedicate their lives to helping others face. Police officers, firefighters, EMTs, and other first responders encounter situations daily that most people will never experience, from witnessing tragedies to making life-and-death decisions at the moment. While their training equips them to act, it does not shield them from the emotional impact of their work.

First responder grief is not a sign of weakness but a reflection of their humanity. By creating environments where mental health is prioritized and grief is openly acknowledged, we can empower these heroes to heal, grow, and continue their vital work.

1. Acknowledge Their Experiences

• Validate their emotions: Start by acknowledging the difficulty of their work. For example, "I can only imagine how challenging it must be to witness such intense situations regularly."

• Avoid clichés: Statements like "I know how you feel" or "Everything happens for a reason" can feel dismissive. Instead, focus on listening.

2. Use Language That Respects Their Perspective

• Avoid pathologizing their feelings: First responders are often uncomfortable with terms like "emotional breakdown." Instead, they frame grief as a natural response to their experiences.

• Focus on strength through support: Phrases like "It takes courage to talk about what’s weighing on you" can resonate better than "You need help."

3. Create a Safe, Confidential Space

• Emphasize privacy: Many first responders fear judgment or repercussions at work. Make it clear that their conversations will remain confidential.

• Be patient: Trust takes time, especially if reluctant to open up initially.

4. Offer Concrete Support

• Share practical tools: Introduce coping strategies, such as grounding techniques, mindfulness exercises, or journaling, to help process emotions.

• Provide peer connections: Mention groups or programs specifically for first responders, such as peer support teams or professional counselors trained in their field.

5. Lead with Open-Ended Questions

Encourage them to share without feeling pressured. Some examples include:

• "What’s been on your mind after that call?"

• "What helps you decompress after tough days?"

• "How do you usually deal with what you’ve seen on the job?"

6. Address Stigma Head-On

• Normalize grief: Explain that grief isn’t a weakness; it’s a sign of caring deeply about their work and the people they serve.

• Use examples: Share relatable stories of other first responders who’ve benefited from talking about grief or seeking support.

7. Focus on Actionable Next Steps

• Ask about immediate needs: "What would help you feel more supported now?"

• Suggest professional help when appropriate: "Many first responders find it helpful to speak with someone who specializes in their work—would you like me to connect you with someone?"

8. Stay Mindful of Their Coping Style

First responders often rely on humor, distraction, or compartmentalization to cope. Respect these mechanisms while gently encouraging them to explore their feelings when ready.

9. Be Persistent but Not Pushy

If they resist opening up, don’t give up. Keep the door open with statements like:

• "I’m here whenever you feel like talking."

• "You don’t have to go through this alone—support is available."

10. Recognize Signs of Deeper Struggles

If their grief is leading to severe symptoms such as substance abuse, withdrawal, or suicidal thoughts, it’s critical to connect them with crisis resources or mental health professionals immediately.

Example Conversation Starter

• "I’ve noticed you’ve been quieter than usual lately. It makes sense, given all you’ve been dealing with. I want you to know it’s okay to feel the weight of this work, and I’m here to support you however you need."

Here’s a list of resources and tools that can be helpful for supporting first responders dealing with grief:

1. Hotlines and Crisis Resources

• Safe Call Now: A 24/7 confidential crisis hotline for first responders.
  Phone: 1-206-459-3020

• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (U.S.): Available 24/7 for crisis support.
  Phone: 988

• COPLINE: A confidential hotline for law enforcement officers.
  Phone: 1-800-267-5463

2. Peer Support Networks

• International Critical Incident Stress Foundation (ICISF)
  Offers peer support training and resources for first responders.
  Website: www.icisf.org

• First Responder Support Network (FRSN)
  Provides peer support retreats and resources for first responders and their families.
  Website: www.frsn.org

• Code Green Campaign
  Focuses on mental health advocacy and support for first responders.
  Website: www.codegreencampaign.org

• MOFRPN.org 

3. Mental Health and Counseling Services

• EMDR or Brainspotting Therapists
  Look for therapists trained in trauma-specific methods like EMDR or Brainspotting, which are particularly effective for first responders processing traumatic grief.
  Find a therapist: www.emdria.org or www.brainspotting.com

• FirstNet by AT&T
  A service designed for first responders that offers a directory of mental health resources and support programs.
  Website: www.firstnet.com/first-responders/mental-health

4. Apps for Stress and Mindfulness

• Headspace for First Responders
  Offers free subscriptions for meditation and mindfulness exercises tailored to first responders.
  Website: www.headspace.com/firstresponders

• ResponderRel8
  A peer-to-peer support app for first responders to connect anonymously and share experiences.
  Website: www.responderrel8.com

• PTSD Coach
  A mobile app designed to help manage symptoms of PTSD, created by the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs.
  Available on iOS and Android.

5. Books and Educational Materials

• "Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement" by Kevin M. Gilmartin
  A practical guide for law enforcement officers and their families to understand and manage the emotional toll of the job.

• "Bulletproof Spirit" by Dan Willis
  A book offering emotional survival strategies for law enforcement officers and other first responders.

• "The Resilient First Responder" by Debra A. Atlas
  Focuses on building resilience and coping skills for first responders.

6. Workshops and Retreats

• The Bridge Retreat
  Retreats designed specifically for first responders and their families to address trauma and grief.
  Website: www.thebridgeretreat.com

• On-Site Workshops
  Therapeutic workshops for first responders dealing with grief and trauma.
  Website: www.onsiteworkshops.com

• https://www.warriorsascent.org/contact/Kansas City 

7. Local and Departmental Resources

• Encourage first responders to inquire about:

• • Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs)

  • Department-sponsored peer support teams

  • Local Critical Incident Stress Debriefing (CISD) groups